Your children's safety is always the number one priority. In an attempt to prevent them from some other more obvious occurrences, sexual education is often neglected.
However, it's as equally important as everything else, and the following four tips will help you approach this quite sensitive subject.
- Educate Your Child
Our society is becoming increasingly more sexualized with each passing decade. The days of blissful innocence have started ending at age 7 in girls as they enter puberty and at age 9 in boys.
Researches say that children's sexual education should start as early as age 10, while they're still susceptible to different messages and sexual advice. Even though most of the sex ED programs aren't tailored to such a young age, parents can still introduce some of the most important and basic concepts.
Children are constantly exposed to sexual messages from social media, movies, songs, friends or other sources. Unfortunately, most of that information is superficial and unrealistic. Teach your child that this subject is not something to be embarrassed about and be honest with them.
It's vital not to let them form a false image of it in the beginning since it's going to be a lot harder to fix that later on. Help them understand the importance of contraception and safe sex, but do it in such a way that won't scare them off. Sexual relations are one of the most beautiful experiences that life has to offer and they should realize that.
- Both a Friend and a Parent
Let your child know that they can confide in you and approach you with their problems. Look at whatever information they have to share with you from a non-judgmental point of view. Even though it might be tempting to immediately let them know that they're wrong about a certain aspect, try to follow their line of thought and ask questions.
Kids, especially teenagers, need someone who cares about what they have to say and can listen to them talk. Try to understand how and why they feel the way they do, even if it takes a bit of time for them to open up.
As a friend and a parent, you shouldn't be afraid to let them learn from their mistakes. After all, you can't stop them from doing what they want - you can only guide them towards the right path. Show them that the most important thing to you is knowing that they're safe. When they're uncertain about a specific situation, you should be the first person that they reach out to. During puberty, your child's emotions and thoughts are all over the place, and you should help them learn how to somewhat control those emotions.
- Using Spokeo To Gain Insight
Sometimes no matter what you do, your child won't open up to you. Maybe they're going through a traumatic event that you don't know about, or they simply don't feel comfortable sharing.
Even if this is the case, it's normal to be curious as a parent. By using Spokeo, you don't have to be in the dark any longer. Spokeo allows you to run a reverse number lookup and cross-search over 120 different social media platforms and more than 9 billion different records. Maybe your child has a secret blog that he uses as an outlet. If that's the case, you could find out about it.
Furthermore, you could see which social media websites your child uses, as well as any alternative gaming/music accounts. By having a look at what he/she is posting and which people he/she is in contact with, you'll be able to plan your next course of action.
If you're not satisfied with the amount of information returned, you can rerun the search using your child's name or e-mail address. The more you find out about your child's state of mind, the better you'll be able to help him/her.
- Be Forgiving
In the worst-case scenario, it's important to be as supportive and as calm as possible. You don't want to cause even more harm, especially while your child is in such a vulnerable state.
Additionally, you should seek the help of a professional who can help you smooth out the situation. Get a detailed exam from a gynecologist to detect and prevent any further problems from occurring. Try to evaluate your child's mental state - it’s always best to hire a psychologist in order to get a professional analysis. Let them know that they're still young and it's not the end of the world, even though it might not seem so at the time.
Finally, show them your unconditional love and let your child know that you'll be there for them no matter what.
Maguire Haigh is a marketing manager for Spokeo. He is interested in the latest technology trends, marketing strategies and business development. He also prefers traveling, exploring the world and meeting new people. Maguire has great experience in creating and editing articles on different topics.